Oops! Sorry!!


This site doesn't support Internet Explorer. Please use a modern browser like Chrome, Firefox or Edge.

How to start?

To get started - whether it's a couples or an individual journey - take a look at the following books I recommend.


Alternatively, if you'd like to enquire about working with me please email me on 

[email protected]

Couples

These are my top book recommendations for couples.

It Takes One To Tango: 

How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help From My Spouse—and How You Can, Too

Winifred Reilly

If the title of this book makes your heart sink, I get it. So does Winifred. She agrees, 'Yes, it sucks to have to do the work alone'.

But she also says, 'But it means you get to be the ambassador for growth - individually and for the couple'. That makes a lot of sense to me.

Winifred tells the story of her marriage's evolution - within the framework of

Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson's Couples Institute Developmental Model.

So it's a great resource if you're working with me.

Buy 'It Takes One To Tango'

Please note as an Amazon Associate commission may be earned from this link.

Tell Me No Lies

How To Stop Lying To Your Partner - And Yourself - In The 4 Stages Of Marriage

Dr Ellyn Bader, Dr Peter Pearson and Judith Schwartz

Let's be honest - we all lie.

There are reasons we lie in our relationships. And mostly this leads to the erosion of trust for ourselves and for our partner.

This book also sits within the framework of the Developmental Model - which helps explain why we end up lying...

Buy 'Tell Me No Lies'

Please note as an Amazon Associate commission may be earned from this link.

You Are The One You've Been Waiting For: 

A New Approach To Intimate Relationships With The IFS Model

Dick Schwartz

Our Parts are constantly seeking and yet rejecting intimacy. It's often our Parts - both our Protectors and Exiles - that end up running our relationships.

When they're in charge there is no clear communication.

An understanding of our true Self is essential to nourish the capacity to communicate and create a vibrant and compassionate relationship.

Buy 'You Are The One You've Been Waiting For'

Please note as an Amazon Associate commission may be earned from this link.

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

These are some of the main books from Dick Schwartz describing his Internal Family Systems approach to trauma resolution and Self exploration.

Sex and Orgasm

Come As You Are

The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

Emily Nagoski, PhD.

When our Parts start questioning whether our sexuality and sexual response is 'normal' it can pile on a ton of pressure.

Emily's book explains in super simple terms the reality and complexity of the female biology in a way which will help normalize your situation, and provide tools to work with your own sexual response.

Buy 'Come As You Are'

Please note as an Amazon Associate commission may be earned from this link

Apology

Why Won't You Apologize?

Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

Harriet Lerner

A quality apology is way more than the words 'I'm sorry'. A quality apology serves and heals the one giving the apology, the recipient, and also the relationship.

Learning to delivery a quality apology invites the one apologizing to become differentiated - the foundation of a healthy relationship.

Learning these skills is an integral part of couples therapy.

Buy 'Why Won't You Apologize?'

Please note as an Amazon Associate commission may be earned from this link.

Men

I Don't Want To Talk About It:

Overcoming The Secret Legacy Of Male Depression

Terence Real

If you're a man or in a relationship with a man, it makes sense to learn about the conditioning that men receive. The goal is for greater understanding and hence compassion.

I strongly recommend this book for men and women alike.

Terry Real is a leading couples therapist and a strong advocate for men's work. 

Buy 'I Don't Want To Talk About It'

Please note as an Amazon Associate commission may be earned from this link

As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.